old age is cruel

i recently nursed a patient whos bowel decided to prolapse on me. i didnt know what to do! i have never in my nusing career seen any thing like it. i can only describe it as being the size of a mango but redish pink in colour.i called out for help. one of the nurses on the ward came up to see what the problem was. i told her i think mrs m's bowel has prolapsed. she replied with "that happends to her all the time." so she informed me that it had to be pushed back gently with ky jelly. no way was going to do something ive never done before. so she went and got the ky and gently manipulated her bowel back to where it belongs.the poor bugger! she is deteriorating at the age of 80. i must mention my nan is deteriorating and continues to play on the family. she claims that the home she is in is terrible. eg; no one bothers with her, there's nothing to do, they are all bitches and, they hate her puppy.unfortunately my mum listens to her. so some action was taken. she went and spoke to the staff and told them what she has said. all have said its not true! my nan gets involved with all the activities and there is always something to do.no one bitches and the dog is not a problem.its her dementia. shes craves attention from her family.
nan says she wants to go home.this hurts mum. she feels like shes being mean.however, mum has been told by the drs and the nursing staff that dot is not competant to live alone. its too dangerous! her dementia is advancing. time im sure will eventually put my mums mind at ease. my nan has been in the home for about 10 weeks now. its far too early for her to have settled comfortably...